Friday, September 30, 2011

Death

Our Bishops wife passed away last weekend. She has 7 kids, the youngest is 4 and she was only 42 years old. She was my visiting teacher.  She never actually made it over to visit me, as she was too sick the day she had scheduled to come. When I heard she had died, I thought about how the last thing she said to me was to schedule a time to come over so she could fulfill her church duties. What a way to die. To be serving in the gospel up to your very last day. No doubt where she is going. My cousin Jason was at the temple the night before he died. Those examples always stick out to me and remind me to be better and strive to do a little more.

We went to her service today. On the way home, Dave and I talked about how positive the gospel can make your perspective. The bishop was of course sad for his loss, but hopeful that he will see her again because they were sealed in the temple. He wants to continue to serve as the bishop of our ward, even during this hard time, because of his perspective. Those who spoke, talked of rejoicing that she is back with her savior instead of mourning their own loss. What an incredible outlook they have because they have testimonies!  The gospel truly blesses families! All we have to do is keep our promises. Thank you Bench family for reminding me and being an example to every one who was there today, even while you are going through this incredibly hard time.

1 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!!

One year has flown by so quickly I can hardly believe it! I couldn't be happier in my decision to marry Dave. Often times it seems like he was make just for me. He really is the best husband any one could ask for, I'm just glad that I got him.

We decided to celebrate our anniversary a week early to avoid the Labor day prices (while we chose to get married on Labor Day weekend to always have a 3 day weekend and we knew that things would always be more expensive, I just think we forgot that for several anniversaries He would be in school and money would be tight ha ha.) So one week early is fine with us, plus that incorporates Dave's birthday as well.

We went to Lake Las Vegas. This supper cute Italian Villa on the lake. Our hotel was so freakin nice! We went all out and had a blast!

                                                 The view of the courtyard from our room



                                    Supposed to be a view of the lake, but I can't help making faces


                                                        The cute little "village" walk way

menu

BEST RIBS EVER!!!!  We even met the chef to tell him how delicious they are. 
He already knows cause he has won awards for them. 


We had a great time at the resort. They even had a man made beach. We can't wait till we can have a boat someday to really enjoy the lake! 


For our actual anniversary my sisters came to visit us. Dave made THE BEST authentic Italian pizza you've ever had!!! We chilled with them and watched movies. Dave gets distracted sometimes...



He was standing there for a while before I started recording. He is just like a child when Disney is on!


Its great to be married to man who is chill enough that he will hang out with my family on our anniversary. Love you boo!

My Facebook post to Dave on our anniversary. I'd say that about sums it up!
Happy Anniversary! Can't believe its been a year already! I thought I knew what I was getting when I got married. I knew I would get someone to cook for and someone else's laundry to do and of course a best friend to hang out with all the time but I NEVER expected was...my own personal garbage man, an accountant, a computer soft ware consultant, a home made delicious Italian pizza maker, a stand up comedian, a super sized testimony to keep me in line, vacation planner, CNA when I can't walk for a week, best potatoes ever, personal DJ for my night life, personal drummer, pianist and guitarist, a deep thinker for my deep thoughts, a shoulder to cry on when I don't think I can puke one more time, entire house packer, in a few years I'll add my own personal doctor to the list, and of course someone who totally gets me and all my weirhd ways. Love you boo

new calling (august)

One Sunday in August we left church and I said to Dave, " I think I am getting a calling in the Relief Society. I thing I am going to teach the lessons." We kind of just laughed and our conversation turned somewhere else and that was that. We didn't think too much of it.

The next Sunday, sure enough Bishop Bench called me into his office and offered me a calling...to teach Relief Society.  Naturally Dave and I laughed out loud (So far I have a good track record of knowing my calling before hand,  and I think he is really amused by it).

I was set apart the next week and in my blessing I promised that my "mind would be quickened so I could teach the sisters, health for my and my baby, and that I would make great friendships in this ward. Even friendships that will last through the eternities!"  I was really excited about the last part, just being in a new place and not knowing a soul I really want to make good friends. As I thought about that line in the blessing a woman in the ward came to my mind. I had not met her, just seen her at church, taking care of her cute little babies, and then the thought was gone and my mind was off thinking about something else as the bishop finished the blessing.

I met that woman a 2 weeks ago.  Her name is Amber. She is my visiting teacher. She came by herself, since Sister Bench was not feeling well that night. We got along great and had a good conversation. I can definitely see us being friends. I don't know why she came to mind on that particular part of my blessing. Maybe they have no relation at all, but maybe they do...

Moving to Vegas! (July)

After Dave applied to med school we got rejection letter after rejection letter. It was really discouraging! Sometimes I couldn't even wait for him to get home to open them, so I would do it and then have to call and tell him that "they said no." It was no fun and by April and May we were pretty sure we would be staying in Utah another year and we would just have to do the whole process over again.  We decided to apply to Master programs at the DO schools, to boost Dave's application for next year. We figured a Masters program was better then just another year of work at the hospital.

By June and into July we were getting down to the wire, where if a school did accept him, it would be a rush to get us there in time. One day I was in the shower, and as clear as day I had a whole plan of how we would pack and move somewhere quickly. If necessary, I decided Dave could drive to his school, I would stay and extra week or two and pack everything, and he could fly back and we'd drive there together. It was weird and I was wondering why I was planning this all, when we hadn't been accepted anywhere.

THE VERY NEXT DAY (Tuesday, July 5th) Dave came home and said that Touro University in California e mailed him and rejected him, but said they were sending his application to Touro Las Vegas. We hadn't even applied there cause we missed the deal line. The following day, (Wednesday, July 6th) Touro Las Vegas called him and accepted him over the phone. Orientation was that very day, so obviously we missed that. They told us we absolutely had to be there by Friday, July 15th, so he could catch the make up orientation. That gave us only 9 days. But we wanted to be there and moved in somewhere before Friday, so we planned on moving the Wednesday the 13th! Exactly one week to tie up all loose ends, quit our jobs, pack, load and get there. Allowing us one day to find a place (Thursday 14th and hopefully start moving in the same day or the following day and be done moving in by Friday at 3pm, cause we didn't want/have the money to pay for another day of the truck)

Somehow we did it. I'm not sure how, but we did. We both had to work until the day before we left. Dave had a ton of surgeries at the clinic and I had clients already booked a week out, plus I was teaching and the last day of class was Tuesday 12th.  I would pack a little hear and there, but Dave seriously packed almost the entire house. I was too dang sick to really do much of anything. Getting to work was about all the strength I had. Over the weekend Dave hit it hard and did almost everything on Saturday. He was like superman, flying through the house, faster then a speeding bullet! Despite family wanting us  to hang our with them all day Sunday, we managed to get a lot done.

Tuesday evening I went to teach class, while everyone came and loaded up the U haul! I am so grateful for everyone who came and helped! When I got home they were almost completely done! I was dreading the cleaning. I had tried to clean earlier, but the fumes from the cleaning supplies made me so so sick, I was thinking I would just leave the place dirty and eat the deposit. Davi came and cleaned the kitchen and that was a huge help! In the evening my cute little angle beehives came and helped move and also did ALL the cleaning! The cleaned the bathroom, the walls, the baseboards, the blinds and even the soapy grime off the laundry room floor! They were so great! I kept thanking Heavenly Father for sending them over to help me! I will never forget their example of charity and service. They were only 12, but they seemed to know more then most about Christ like charity. (We ended up getting our full deposit back, thats how awesome they did!!!)

That night we slept in an empty apartment on our air mattress. The place echoed when we talked to each other.  The next morning, after a quick vacuum, we were off.  I honestly don't remember too much of the drive. I was feeling really nauseated that day and it seems like I would just zone out while driving and then snap back and wonder how" how did I get here" It was weird, and I ate a lot of cheese sticks.  The Holmgren's fed us in Cedar City. Our little 5 or so hour drive ended up taking closer to 8 cause the U haul had a trailer on the back, so it was slow drivin at times.

We stayed at the Fiesta Henderson (ha ha ha ha) I can't believe we stayed there. We got a really good deal for 2 nights but its probably the lowest class hotel/casino in the area. Oh well, we didn't know. The smoke about put me over the edge and the buffet gave Dave the runs! Ha ha.

Thursday was "find a place to live day" We basically found the school and started driving from there. Dave wanted to be close so he could ride his bike. We looked at several places and took lots of tours. Nothing was super nice or brand new (which I was hoping for) but we did find a nice place that is pretty roomy. So we got the paper work started some time around 4. Of course they do back ground check, and of course Dave passed right away, but with my "criminal record" I delayed the process...

Dave's parents had driven down to help us unload, and were just waiting for our call. By Friday morning we still hadn't been approved so we headed to the storage unit and completely unloaded the truck, turned it in and paid our bill.  We were done by about 10:30 or so. We went back to our hotel for Dave to show and get ready for orientation at noon. AS SOON AS we pulled into the hotel parking lot, the apartment called Dave and told him we were cleared and ready to move in. HA HA HA oh the irony! Seriously! We JUST unloaded the truck!

Dave went to school. I went to the U haul store. Rented another truck and started loading. Holly and Dave came back and loaded the truck. (By now its noon day and bloody hot out side, probably close to 120 degrees) I was of course feeling sick as a dog and hardly able to lift a finger. They loaded everything. I pretty much sat there and watched. I don't think I have ever felt so helpless before in my life! I hated the situation, but was again so grateful to have them there and helping us when we needed it so badly!

Around 3 we met dave at the apartment with the U haul. The boys took over from there. They made a few trips and got us completely moved in. I was left alone for  a while and fell asleep on the bed (ha ha never move when you're pregnant! cause you are worthless)  Dave and his dad worked so freakin hard! And in a day, it was done.  We had dinner with them and they were off.  And there we were surrounded by mountains of boxes to unpack.

In the lovely state of Nevada, they completely shut off all gas and electric when tenant move out and it takes them about a week to get things turned back on. Normally that would be no big deal, cause usually people have a plan when they move and time to get things turned on. Luckily we were able to get our electricity on that day, but we weren't so lucky with the gas...no hot water for 5 days! Ha Ha it was THE worst.  So we got a little creative. We would wait till night (when most people are in for the night) and go out to the pool and shower at the outdoor showers. I would take a little bag of soap and shampoo and sometimes even a razor. Thats right, I shaved outside in a nasty exposed shower. Ha ha we would laugh the whole time we were out there, wondering if people thought we were homeless. Of course you never really feel clean when you  are showering in  your swim suit, but it was better then freezing water!  By the 5th day I was so excited to shower in the house! It was like Christmas morning for me.


Despite the crazy experience we had in getting here, we absolutely love it. Dave loves Touro and our ward is awesome! We hope to stay here for the duration of Dave schooling, but even if we don't we can look back on this and laugh and think of it as a fun time!

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

POPPY!!! (Feb-Sept 2011)




When we got married, David wanted to wait till he started med school before we started a family. I wasn't so sure on waiting a whole year, so I just prayed that we would both know when the time was right...

Sometime in February, siting at the table, Dave said that he drove to the post office earlier in the week, and as he pulled in he had this overwhelming exciting feeling to start a family just completely come over him. As he was telling me this, I am freaking out just a bit. 1. We've only been married for 5 months and 2. I was expecting to "feel" something first and have to get him on board. We decided that we needed to seriously pray about it so we could both be on the same page, what ever page that might be.

The Murphy family had planned a family temple trip to do some greek names at the end of March. When the day to go came, we weren't sure about going because Papou was in the hospital and going from bad to worse. Big Dave decided we should go and that there was really no better place to be. While in the temple I was SO distracted! I kept looking at the name I had and rearranging the letters to make a new name, or adding a letter her or there, or taking a letter our to create cute little girl names. I did this over and over in my head.    Occasionally I would tell my self to pay attention and focus on the session, and pray for Ya Ya and Papou but I would alway come back to making up new names.

After going through the veil, the temple worker held my hand and repeated a phrase I had just said to him earlier. He told me it meant that families are forever and there is nothing more important than my own posterity. He only talked to me for about a minute or so, but his conversation really hit me, mostly because no temple worker had every talked to me like that before. My mind was really starting to race.

While waiting for Dave to come through, Holly randomly came up to me and said, "It will be so great when you have your own children and you get to see them go through the temple and go on missions! There is nothing better" I just kind of laughed to myself and thought message received. It just all hit me at once that is was time to start our family. I was anxious to talk to Dave and see if he had any of the same feelings.

Of course he didn't ha ha ha. He didn't need to. He already had his confirmation. But he was really excited as we talked about it in the Celestial room.

Papou passed away that night. I was grateful to have been to the temple early that day and to have been thinking of our posterity, knowing that families are forever and we could see Papou again.

So Dave and I decided we would start trying to start our family. I hadn't been feeling well, so I went to see Dr. Nunn N.D. He put me on armour thyroid to get me back on my feet. He suggested we wait a few months before getting pregnant, even though we had already been trying.  Dave didn't like that suggestion, so again we prayed about it. We knew we were doing the right thing...2 weeks later I was late. Dave told me to wait till the end of the week to take a test so I waited. Tuesday...I waited. Wednesday I was getting antsy. REALLY antsy! Thursday...I couldn't take it any more! So first I took a little on line test. I just wanted to see if what I was experiencing had anything to do with being pregnant! Sure enough, based on my answers it said I was pregnant! I was almost 5 weeks along! It showed the stage our baby was in and said it was about the size of a poppy seed! So I went to Smith's and bought a Smith's brand test. It was definitely positive. I had a surge of emotions! I was so excited and completely thrilled and scared to death. I wanted to call Dave right away, but I didn't want to give him the exciting news over the phone. I left the test on the bathroom counter and went to Dr. Frogley's.

I was hoping I would get home before he did, but I wasn't fast enough. I walked in the door to see the back side of Dave standing over the toilet looking at the test. He turned around (while trying not to pee everywhere ha ha) and had the BIGGEST smile on his face. It was too cute! He immediately went through the same emotions I had experienced earlier. He was freaking out and completely happy. I had never seen him like that before. When he found out I had bought an off brand test, he was not satisfied! Off brand was not good enough for his baby! Ha Ha so we went back to Smith's. He bought the most expensive one there. But not before he researched them all on his phone. Ha Ha that is sooo Dave!!! We picked up some steaks too, to celebrate.

Time to retest...(mid April)



We couldn't believe it! Dave was so cute. He started pacing around the house and telling me all the things I needed to do. He already had someone for me to see at the hospital. The list went on and on of things he wanted me to do. I will never forget how quickly he went into "man mode" We decided to wait for several more weeks before we told anyone. We just wanted to makes sure it was going to "stick".

We decided we would drop the bomb for fathers day. We made the cutest shirts to give to our dads. They said "worlds best grandpa, est. 2012" Unfortunately we had to have my dad open it over the phone, since they were in Arizona. He opened it and said "What? Are you guys pregnant?" I could already hear the tears in his voice. We had him wear the shirt to "tell" my mom, and apparently she didn't get it for a while. He had to make his chest really obvious to get her to read it. Ha Ha Ha.  We were able to record the Murphy's response.   We waited to have Dave open our gift last, and it took FOREVER!!! Ha Ha Ha. Holly's face says it all.





It was so much fun telling our families we were going to have a baby, especially since Poppy is the first grandchild on both sides! 

I felt the sickness that goes with pregnancy. In the beginning I felt so nauseated, but I never threw up. I would hope to throw up cause I just felt so sick, it seemed like it would bring me some relief. Things carried on like that for the entire first trimester. I never cooked. Hardly ate. Slept a lot! The site of ANY green vegetables would completely turn my stomach, same with chicken and eggs. I wanted to each creamy dairy things. I ate a TON of cheese sticks, and drank lemon water with stevia in it, as well as the usual, saltines. I was just waiting to get past the 12 week mark to start feeling better. Unfortunately, at 12 weeks things went from bad to worse! I was extremely tired. Dave would joke that you couldn't leave me alone, without stimulation for even a minute, or I would fall asleep. I slept in late and napped everyday. And I started throwing up! That is the worst! I could barely keep an english muffin down for breakfast and lunch would be something processed like a pop tart. At some point what little I had in my stomach would come up. By night time I would finally have an appetite, and for about 6 weeks the only thing I wanted to eat was Arby's! A roast beef with curly fries and a chocolate shake! Although I wasn't eating a lot of food, it was obviously not the best food choices, needless to say my weigh went up and up! After my Arby's phase, then I got really into pho! It was something about the broth that I craved! We were eating there about 2 a week at least and my weight really skyrocketed! I figured it was probably because of the sodium, (which I was totally bloated and retaining water!  You could see it!) I was completely miserable. I hated being pregnant. I spent most of my days on the couch (thank goodness for netflix!!!!) but it was really getting depressing! Some days it was a chore to shower. Poor Dave didn't get a meal fixed for him for 5 whole months. But he never complained! He was totally supportive and took great care of me. I am so lucky to have him. Finally, at week 20, I felt like a human being again! It was a long 5 months, but some how we survived it! 

At 20 weeks we went to get an ultrasound to make sure everything we developing properly and to find out the sex of the baby. (I think its a girl. I just have felt that way from day one. Not sure why. I would love a boy, and am not biased one way or the other, I just think this first one is a girl) But we wanted to be sure with the ultrasound! Of course after 30 minutes of looking around, the tech couldn't tell cause Poppy wouldn't open her legs to let us have a peek. She was looking right at us with her head on the placenta for a pillow. Probably pretty comfy. Sooo... we don't know what we are going to do now, as it is advised you don't get more ultrasounds unless its medically needed. Already she is being a little stinker! And having her own way. I wonder where she gets that from? 

Friday, September 2, 2011

settling in and random memories of the year

We started getting in the swing of things and got back to the real world. Dave worked at Mountain Star Cardiovascular, and I was at Stein Erikson in Park City, as well as a chiropractors office (which was at our apartment building, it was a minute walk to work for me). Dave started the arduous task of applying to med school, and had those complete by mid January. We were glad we cut some corners at our wedding so we had the funds to pay for his applications! (Davi and Cass, take the money over the big fancy party!!!) Dave was busy as the 2nd councilor in the Young Men's, and I was busy in Primary for a few months, then as the 2nd councilor in the Young Women's.


Dave totally went all our for my birthday! He surprises me at home with a  Bruno Mars serenade, presents and cake. Then wisked me off for our romantic couples massage at an awesome down town spa. Starting with a mini pedi, one hour massage, bath with cheesecake and beverage. It was perfect! Then to dinner at Typhoon, cause I always gave him a hard time about going there without me, and taking  Joe and Kristin (my roommate) to celebrate her getting accepted to grad school. They just couldn't wait for me to get home from work.  Ha ha. He really loves to spoil me, and I don't really mind!






The first Saturday in December we went to clean the ward with the Primary. After cleaning I went to the gym and started shooting around with Tiger, one of the boys in my class. I remember I jumped and while in the air I squared up my shoulders, but tuned my body in the process and while in mid air, I felt my back go out and start to spasm. I knew that coming down was going to kill me and it nearly did. I almost dropped to the ground! Long story short, I was out for a good week where I literally could not walk. I completely relied on Dave. He fed me, gave me my pills, helped me to the bathroom and when he had to go back to work, he would pack me a cute little lunch and bring it to me in bed. He was so great! I could not have survived with out him. It was probably the most miserable time of my life and I'm so glad he was there to help me through it!


Oh CHRISTMAS! We bought anything and everything for each other. We both had the mentality that we won't be able to have another Christmas like this for 10 years, so we might as well go all out this year! It was so much fun. We had 3 Christmas,  plus Christmas week and post Christmas! We opened a present every day the week of Christmas, since we didn't want to travel with all those gifts. Then had Christmas with my family (Dave got a gun from my dad, guess that means he is officially part of the family). Then Christmas with the Murphy's in January when we got home, and then we opened more presents from each other. It was like a bottomless hole under the tree. So much fun.